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India’s Pseudo Feminism

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Pseudo Feminism

Pseudo Feminism

….Indian Women flying fighter aircraft’s,
……Indian woman in NASA build space ships,
……..Indian women wining world beauty pageants,
……….Educated Indian females walking in the newly arrived multinational companies in western attire,
…………Doing brave journalism.

These are the celebrated marks by the newly blossomed English media in India to prove that women are free in this so called developing country. And some idiots claim that these are the results of globalizing the economy…. Hey Fools, My grand mother was a working woman in the British colonial India.

[This content is written out of PAIN by observing the majority of educated women of my generation who are dragging Indian society backward. Not for those who are still fighting to be progressive females….]

Tear the false screen portrayed by the globalized Indian media… You will feel the bitter truth.

One of my female friend who was good in her education, out performed boys, always portrayed herself as a feminist told me she got engaged to a guy who is working in the developed west. And she also said her father will pay 100 pound of gold as dowry, the interesting fact is she said all this with a smiling face.

Another friend of me told me that her fiance asked for 5 Lakh rupees (500000 INR) as dowry but then reduced to 4 Lakh after looking at her, because he liked her. (What a SHAME!) When I asked “Do you like him?” she said “very much”.

This is the story every where, majority of today’s so called educated women don’t resist a dowry based male chauvinist marriage process. And they are happy with it and not ready to fight against this. And these women always claim that “It’s not the bridegroom but their parents are demanding dowry, He is a nice guy…. “. Yeah…it’s a social comedy. They are very much happy in fooling themselves.

An ideal feminist should not accept a marriage where dowry is involved in any form (Money, Gold, House, Land, Vehicle, Material, etc). I’m yet to see a real feminist who’s a female in my circuit.

These upper class/caste Indians are comfortable with getting or giving dowry, but this affected the lower income families. Thousands of poor girls are not able get married even at 30+ just because their families cannot afford the burden of dowry. If educated women are not interested to fight for their own values and self respect, the world would laugh at men who are against a dowry based marriage.

It’s really painful and a National shame.

And when higher education is becoming very expensive in India and many aspirant poor girls don’t get opportunity to get to good universities, I have seen girls from the middle & higher income families prefer to be HOUSE WIFES ( combination of cook and baby machine) just because their husband are earning in dollar’s & Euros. And some of them are really proud to be a house wife’s in the US, Canada or any developed country just by trashing theirs valuable education in the marriage market. Today it’s a social pride for upper/middle class families to have their daughters married to a guy settled in any developed nation. And some girls go to higher studies just to get a NRI bridegroom. I think India is the only country where education is used for this purpose.

Its interesting to know what these modern NRI house wife’s do, They cook food referring recipe in the internet, They go to the near by supermarket to get groceries, wash clothes using washing machine, voice chat with their families back home, upload photos shot in front of liberty statue or London bridge in orkut/ facebook to show their folks, and well dress and showoff during local NRI community events. For all these things why do these women need a technical or masters degree? Please give this valuable education to aspiring poor girls who can really feel the value of it and use it for the benefit of their family and also for the society.

This is the reality of the majority of the educated middle and upper class women in India. If you say modern educated Indian women are making progressive stuff, it’s a joke. If you look at the family pattern of the lower income groups the number of house wife’s are lesser then the higher income group. The women from lower economic class work as agriculture labors, cooks, domestic servants, tailors, florist etc. Some of them are small entrepreneurs selling Idly, Dosa or milk in streets. I have seen poor uneducated girls fighting to come up in the male dominated world, resisting male chauvinism in every step they make…Kudos to them. They are real progressive females and fit to be called as feminist.

They never talk feminism, They live it.

Those educated pseudo feminist should start learning feminism and life from these true ones…


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Written by palindia

September 19, 2009 at 9:55 AM

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  1. Good to c such an article. Kudos to u..
    I get reminded of a quote, >>The emotional, sexual, and psychological stereotyping of females begins when the doctor says, “It’s a girl.”<<
    Ur portrayal of a perfect feminist is excellent. Still loads of women in India are treated as instruments rather than ornaments. Ppl find it a fact of prestige, (ppl here includes women) to say that they had so much* as dowry.
    Still in the examples u ve said, "Gal struggling in her live amidst male domination", she finally falls into the gut. Its how our society.. whenever a gal underdoes she s said "she s jus a gal" and whenever she overdoes she s said "afterall she s gal, how can she?". Do u think things can Change.. hardly another revolution can…….

    I ve read something thought provoking after a long time… A good article, d best.. Kudos!!

    Uma

    September 19, 2009 at 10:16 PM

  2. Nice blog, Keep writing .. Expecting more from you

    🙂

    Senthil Sethuraman

    September 20, 2009 at 9:59 AM

  3. Well Done for ur Initiative…….
    But still very Easy to SAY but it requires guts for a gal to implement in day to day life.

    Pandy

    September 21, 2009 at 6:08 PM

  4. Its really a gud start..Most of the REVOLUTIONS are being stopped by Pseudosim…Fight against Pseudoism…

    Nanda

    September 21, 2009 at 8:53 PM

  5. hey man…

    i thoroughly enjoyed your post. uh…it was really happy to see my long time pal(in both meanings) at last started blogging. and it really makes me so happy.u idiot, u had such a writing skill, and you were hiding it all these days.

    //One of my female friend who was good in her education, out performed boys, always portrayed herself as a feminist told me she got engaged to a guy who is working in the developed west. And she also said her father will pay 100 pound of gold as dowry, the interesting fact is she said all this with a smiling face.

    Another friend of me told me that her fiance asked for 5 Lakh rupees (500000 INR) as dowry but then reduced to 4 Lakh after looking at her, because he liked her. (What a SHAME!) When I asked “Do you like him?” she said “very much”.//

    these two incidents are really important and hitting the nail and loved the way you have put them with satire.

    //I think India is the only country where education is used for this purpose.//

    now i have an evidence to prove my thesis on ‘pal punch’ which i have been propounding for all these years.

    so, sirji, pls do continue posting here. we are for commenting.

    latin americavil irundhu thaane post ezudhiya thaanai thalaivan vazhga, vazhga!

    me1084

    September 23, 2009 at 7:15 AM

  6. Hi

    Chanced upon your blog and found it quite interesting.

    Just my two cents here:

    One thing is the women (usually from middle class and upper middle class families) who get themselves educated, work in IT companies, and get dressed in madisaars or the equivalent of it and go through repungant ceremonies called marriages, which are nothing short of circuses that endorse and uphold caste-based discrimination and women subjuagtion. I wonder how many of these women would call themselves a feminist when it’s time for marriage. These women don’t even call themselves feminists for fear of ‘upsetting’ the grooms/their families whom they claim to fall in love at the first sight! The point I want to make here is…these women’s ‘development’ or education as you rightly put is pointless and waste of public money! It is another matter that the media calls them feminists!

    The other point is the fact that feminism or women’s rights have been restricted to the upper classes. You have made a very good start by opening the discussion on feminism, upperclass aspirations, and the working class woman…

    Looking forward to more writeups from you. 🙂

    Hannah

    September 23, 2009 at 10:59 AM

  7. Awesome.

    sathish

    February 28, 2012 at 11:30 PM


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